Finding Joy in the Chaos

The holidays—a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. Or at least, that’s what we’re told, right? For moms, though, the holidays can feel like the ultimate juggling act, where we’re trying to create magic for everyone else while barely keeping ourselves afloat. Let’s be honest: sometimes it feels like we’re the stagehands of Christmas, working behind the scenes to make it all happen but rarely stepping into the spotlight to soak in the moment.

If you’re reading this and nodding along, I see you. And I’m here to say: it’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and it’s okay to take a step back. Let’s unpack what the holidays often look like for moms, and how we can shift the narrative to find more joy amidst the chaos.

1. The Holiday Planning Overload

From making gift lists to organizing the family calendar, moms are often the unofficial CEOs of Christmas. We’re the ones remembering who needs a Secret Santa gift, which teacher prefers gift cards over mugs, and what time the kids’ holiday concert starts.

It’s easy to get caught up in the details and forget the bigger picture. But here’s a gentle reminder: the holidays aren’t about perfection; they’re about connection. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, ask yourself: What really matters to my family? Maybe it’s a cozy movie night with popcorn instead of a Pinterest-worthy gingerbread house. Give yourself permission to simplify.

2. The Pressure to Create Holiday Magic

We want the holidays to be magical for our kids, but that doesn’t mean we have to do everything. Elf on the Shelf, handmade advent calendars, perfectly wrapped gifts… it can quickly become too much.

Here’s the thing: what your kids will remember most isn’t the perfectly curated Instagram moments; it’s the laughter, the love, and the time you spent together. Let go of the pressure to do it all. If the Elf forgets to move one night, blame it on a "holiday nap." Kids love a good story.

3. The Emotional Load of the Holidays

Holidays can be emotionally heavy for moms. For some, it’s the weight of family dynamics or the grief of missing loved ones. For others, it’s the pressure to make everything perfect in a way that’s simply unattainable.

Take a moment to check in with yourself. What are you feeling this season? It’s okay to admit that the holidays aren’t always merry and bright. Give yourself the space to grieve, to feel, or just to breathe. And remember: it’s okay to say no to traditions or gatherings that don’t bring you joy.

4. The Mental Load of "Keeping Track of It All"

Let’s not forget the sheer mental gymnastics of the holidays. Remembering who likes what, keeping track of shipping deadlines, and making sure the kids don’t find the gifts hidden in the closet. It’s exhausting.

Delegate when you can. Ask your partner to take on a specific task (and let them handle it their way—no micromanaging!). And consider embracing the beauty of outsourcing, whether it’s buying pre-made cookie dough or using a gift-wrapping service. Your time and sanity are worth it.

5. The Struggle to Find Time for Yourself

Amid all the holiday hustle, it’s easy to put yourself last. But here’s a reminder: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Finding even small moments to recharge can make a world of difference.

Maybe it’s a quiet coffee before the kids wake up, a solo walk to clear your head, or indulging in a holiday movie after bedtime. Whatever fills your cup, prioritize it. You deserve to enjoy the season too.

6. Redefining "Holiday Success"

Finally, let’s talk about what success looks like during the holidays. Spoiler: it’s not about having the prettiest tree or the fanciest dinner table. It’s about creating moments of joy and connection, however small.

Your kids won’t remember the mismatched ornaments or the slightly overcooked cookies. They’ll remember how you made them feel. Loved, safe, and part of something special. That’s the magic of the holidays, and you’re already creating it—just by being you.

Final Thoughts

Moms, you’re doing an amazing job, even when it feels like you’re barely holding it together. The holidays are as much for you as they are for everyone else, so give yourself grace and permission to enjoy them in your own way. Here’s to a season that’s not perfect, but perfectly imperfect—just like life.

Wishing you and your family a holiday season filled with love, laughter, and a little less stress.

xx, Kyla